Since 1951, the hallowed corridors of IIT Kharagpur (IIT-K) and its sister institutes across India, have produced a crop of the best brains in the country — with intelligence that can rival the Jobs and Gates of the world and armed with pay packages that can give our Jatt boyz a run for their dowry. But behind the success stories of these nerds, geeks and techies, have lingered dark secrets — of long days wasted caressing machines, of lonely nights spent recalling how a real-woman-without-myopia looked like, and of hours exhausted devising mathematical formulae on ‘how to make eye-contact with the cute girl who visits the grocery store?’
If popular stories emanating from some of the best educational institutes in India like the IITs, IIMs and NITs are anything to go by, it won’t be too hard to believe that the skewed boy-to-girl ratio in these institutions has led to many a Devdas-in-the-making. “Even with your high profile IIT degree and your sky-high value in the marriage market, you are still stuck with one of the few girls from IIT, who in no way can be a 10-pointer on looks. That is seriously unfair,” Deepjyoti Deka, a B-tech from IIT Guwahati, sighs.
But now, three IIT-K graduates have taken upon themselves the task of alleviating the dire straits of their forlorn mates. In January this year, 22-year-olds Layak Singh, Kinshuk Bairagi and Nikhil Kaushik launched a social dating website called DateIITians that encourages IITians (primarily, and also those from IIMs, NITs, med schools and other geek-producing institutes) to explore ‘meaningful relationship’ opportunities among, well, lesser mortals.
The website was conceived three years ago, when the trio, still in the second year of their engineering, opted for an internship with an education consultancy company in Kolkata. “While mentoring IIT and IIM aspirants on how to crack the entrances, we came across many interesting (and interested) girls who we otherwise had no chance of meeting,” says Singh. A vision dawned on them — of a world where geeks and nerds can mingle freely, without hesitation and sans prescribed scientific dos and don’ts, with people from the opposite sex. Thus was born DateIITians.
Three 22-year olds have launched a dating website called DateIITians that encourages IITians (primarily, and also med schools and other geek-producing institutes) to explore ‘meaningful relationship’ opportunities among, well, lesser mortals.
After a registration process, followed by a three-step verification to limit fake profiles, a member can get access to network among peers, flirt with interested candidates, develop a crush and make a proposal. “Requests have to be sent on each step. A buddy request can be followed by a flirt request which can be a personal message or a gift,” Singh says. Gifts can be bought on the site itself through e-commerce and when flirting takes you to the stage where your heart starts fluttering, you can then send a crush request and take it further with a proposal. Singh says, “We are very strict about the content and hence filter all slangs and lewd comments by tracking messages with key-words.”
The website is currently in its alpha stage and new features are being planned for updates, including a 3D chat. “For a guy in a place like Kharagpur, to take a beautiful girl out on a date would mean travelling three hours to Kolkata,” Singh laughs. “So with 3D chat, people will have the option to go on virtual dates.” This means your online avatar can take your partner’s avatar to a cafe, watch a movie or play a game and if, science allows, part with a goodnight kiss.
DateIITians has drawn over 7,000 members in just over four months and has seen 1,100 flirt requests. But not every geek is excited about it. Bhargav, an MBA from XLRI says bitterly, “Sites like this won’t help. Women only like to live off us. Since, most of us are not well versed with the game of love, women leave us after they are done decorating themselves with our pay-cheques.” Deka has a simpler solution for it all, “Who needs a dating site? Take the help of your shining resume and the rich uncle in Bhatinda to find a girl along with some crores.”
This article was originally posted on http://www.sunday-guardian.com by SATARUPA PAUL 20th May
Dating: an event which can even make a very confident person to lose his cool and act like a school kid. What to say, when to speak and when to just shut up and listen, where to go for the date, how to make it exciting and adventurous, how to impress the other, what to wear and many other similar questions haunts you at every hour of the day and by the time the blessed moment arrives you’re totally nervous. Does the situation sound similar? Do all these remind you of your first date?
If yes and you have still got no answer to the million dollar question, “how to make your date a perfect one?”Let me tell you at the start there is no single set of rules which you need to follow to make your date a perfect one. The most important point to be kept in mind is that you should first get to know the other person, what does he/she likes, what is his idea of adventure, what is his idea of a perfect date, for someone it might be a candle light dinner in a posh restaurant but for some other it may be a pub or even an amusement park.
Respect the other’s wish and give it more importance than yours, it makes them feel special and lucky to have got a mate who is willing to sacrifice his preferences just for yours. You should choose a location very carefully, you need to make your date comfortable and the surroundings do play an important role.
Dress for the occasion: wearing shorts and a casual t-shirt for dinner in a restaurant is not a good idea, you might like those cool and comfortable shorts but keep in mind that you’re going out with a lady and should dress as per the occasion. Never make the other person feel embarrassed because of your poor dressing sense.
Always appear with a gift: you don’t need to buy an expensive one, just a bunch of flowers or some chocolates would do, but appearing with a small token of appreciation would surely earn you some brownie points.
Compliments and attention: Chris Rock, the famous comedian once said that any woman needs three things to survive oxygen, food and compliments. Well, this statement does has some truth. So make her feel comfortable and compliment her. Your compliments should never sound fake or too much stretced from the truth. Don’t just pay compliments like, you’re beautiful, tell her why is she so beautiful to you, tell her what do you specifically like about her but don’t overdo it, it may have the opposite effect. Every girl wants to feel special, tell her that she is different, try using adjectives like beautiful rather than hot or sexy.
As compliments are to girls similarly attention is to a guy. Listen to a guy, not just with your ears but with your expressions, your body language and actions. Be sympathetic. Appreciate him for his efforts, say how much you liked it, and he would love it.
Talk a lot: By talking a lot, I don’t mean mindless chatter or you telling your whole life history and the other one listening as if there is no other option. What I mean is be open, frank, don’t talk in monosyllables, try to include the other one. If your date is a bit shy and doesn’t speak much, start speaking and sharing, ask about his opinion so that he is bound to answer. Show interest and never be self absorbed.
Now you know, just put in that little extra and you can easily make your ordinary date an extraordinary one. The key is to make the other feel important and special. Let your special one know that you’re happy and there’s no place on earth you’d rather be than here.
With the internet being as big as the universe, more and more people are browsing through the galaxies of websites that offer online dating services. After all, everybody wants love, and if using technology is naturally happening in the rest of our lives, why not in love? In the recent years online dating has grown in a big way with India having 15 million takers of the online dating service. The busy lifestyle surely is attracting more and more people to find chemistry on the net but don’t you want to be sure that the cute 24-year-old guy is actually cute, is really 24 and most importantly is really a guy. While dating online, it is very important that you protect yourself and this can be easily done by following a few guidelines, trusting your instincts and using common sense. These are some tips that might come handy while you search for the magic online.
Don’t provide personal information too soon: Information like your last name, address or phone number should never be disclosed on your profile. If you have developed a considerable degree of trust on the other person only then you should disclose personal information and then too be over-cautious. There’s no need to be paranoid about your privacy, but at the same time, it is wise to take simple precautions that will ensure you remain safe until you are completely comfortable.
Take it slow: Take your time, don’t be in too much of a rush to meet in person. If you are concerned the person in the photo is not who they say they are, ask them to take a quick digital shot holding that day’s newspaper. Use apps for background checks. You can also Google their user profile name. Many times people are on multiple dating sites and use the same profile name. If you find this is the case, ask the person if they are only on one dating site and see what they say. Look for inconsistencies and questionable characteristics in their communication.
Be ultra safe when meeting for the first time: There might be butterflies flying in our stomach and you may feel as if your heartbeat is beating as loud as a drum but amidst all these don’t forget that your safety should still be your first concern. These are some simple rules you should follow while meeting for the first time:
- Always meet in a populated public place and stay around public places.
- Travel there on your own – don’t accept a lift from your date.
- Do tell a friend or family member who you are meeting, where you are going and when you will be back.
- Stay sober.
- Take your mobile phone.
- Your personal belongings can be stolen. Your drink can be drugged. Don’t leave them unattended.
Trust your gut instinct: Lastly, if you ever feel that something’s wrong don’t disregard it coz you might just be right. Trust your gut instinct, it is the most powerful psychological tool you have at your disposal.
If you take these simple precautions internet can turn to be the most convenient and safest way to meet people. Best thing about it is, you can even flirt with a number of people at one time. Talk about multi-tasking:)keep an open mind, an open heart and most of all, your common sense with you and online dating can help you get your valentine.
[Written by Layak Singh]
“To fall in love is easy, even to remain in it is not difficult; our human loneliness is cause enough. But it is a hard quest worth making to find a comrade through whose steady presence one becomes steadily the person one desires to be.”~Anna Louise Strong
It is very critical question to answer that why someone should fall in love with someone. There is a chemistry behind it that why we fall in love with certain people and with other. Some time it happens that that we love may not be the right choice. It also depends on the luck to find a person whom you may love. I would suggest that fall in love is a natural way and does not depends on the external factors but also depend on the voice of heart. It is easy to find a partner but it is more difficult to keep the strong relationship forever.
The question is always in the mind of the people that why she/he doesn’t love me and will I be able to make him/her to love me. The problem is not at the only one side but happens to both side because none of them is sure about the final result that will occur, it may be in support or in negative. If someone is able to know why I am in love with someone, will help in easy feelings of rejection or may be of heartbreak. No one knows when he/she will be in love with someone at what stage and what will be the future. It’s a kind of mystery in the love. It is very hard to decide whether he/she should live to him/her or not. There are some most important factors which determine with whom we fall in love and why. There are variety of neurochemical processes and the external stimuli which influence the situation to fall in love with someone.
Why fall in love and with whom?
Attraction: It influences the person very much because it makes attention towards the person. It may be one side, does not matter but love happen and the person fall in love to the other person. Sometime the front person doesn’t know that someone loves him/her. It is very dangerous situation because of the controversy of each other.
Attitude and Behaviour: This is considered as the foremost factor as it allows the persons to love each other easily. People know that they are very much influenced with attitude and behaviour and make them love. No one knows when love will be in between of them. People generally lost in the goodness of their behavior.
Smell: Some of the people fall in love partly because of their smell to each other. It is kind of cultural preference which enables the possibilities of the romantic relationships. Cultural attractiveness is one of the causes to be fall in love.
Love pheromones: No one knows what’s going in their mind, or heart about the other person, and when they start loving to each other. Pheromones are very invisible, unexpected, unlearned and unsmellable love signals which when enter to the brains no one can think. The heart and brain sensors use touch, smell and hearing
The brain: We fall in love with some person partly because of the brain hormones. Oxytocin and vasopressin are present in case the two people fall in love and maintain long relationship together for a long time. When the question comes to your mind that why someone whom you love does not love you, then use your brain hormones to think about it.
Sometime in case of women they always love to the person who earns lot of money an able to spend on them easily. Also the physical symmetry in both men and women leads to the possibility to fall in love. If you think finding the true love is all about fate, you may want to think twice! The other side of the fall in love is the maintaining the relationship and lots of principal factors are there by which the relationship can be make strong for long time. All of us know about the danger of growing apart, where two people who were inseparable moved in to the situation of losing the affinity. Now they don’t want to see to each other closely, don’t want to make eye to eye, this happens because of the not maintaining the good relationship with each other. The only primary factor for this may be growing together instead of growing apart.
How to make Strong relationship?
We need to focus on some factors combining to make relationship strong for ever. We must be:
Loving and invested:
Invested means to care and caring / loving which will certainly make the relationship strong. All love relationship depends on what you care and love to the person, there must be great deal in caring and loving from starting and it should be continue for forever. All caring should be done to the personal intents, purposes, opposites, and this will result in the good relationship as said love is the opposite of self-interest and because self-interest in caring. So the life should be caring, continue caring, loving and continue loving.
Towards and Sensitive
What you care to the person relates to the disposition of the torwardness. There must be energetically towards the feeling of the person whom you love or care. If the both person are energetically feed, the health and strong relationship will be there. The partners who have successful relationship always nurture to each other. Also if there is no sensitivity then torwardness is like divisive. Strong and healthy relationship always depends on the ability of the sensitiveness to each other. Sensitivity makes them to think what they are in need from each other, and motivates to them for good relationship.
Open Feedback and appreciation
For having a strong and good relationship, it should be alive not static. Relationship is not like an object but it is a process of growth. If the relationship is not growing it means it s being killed. There should be appraisal to each other, feedback to each other what they do or what they should not do, what is good or what is bad. The appreciation and feedback should not be like professionals but it should be caring, loving and from heart to each other.
Help in problem and aware of the things
It is a life where no one is perfect; there may be some bad or good things inside the people. So, it should be understand that there is need to help each other to know problem and resolve together. This increases the closeness to each other. Love need to aware of all flaws that we have. This will smoothly, increase the love to each other and will maintain the long and strong relationship.
Support to other and self- supportive
People’s thought that there should be someone to support them in what they do, may not be always correct. But instead of that the thinking should be such that the person should be able to support himself, it is very essential for maintaining the strong and healthy relationship. Think to the situation where you are not able to help yourself, how can you help to your partner in need.
Thus, it can be said that fall in love is different with the maintaining he relationship. If you find a good partner still if you are unable to maintain the relationship, your relationship will be biter than you expect. For good relationship it is not necessary to fulfil the wish of your partner but also it is needed to care, love, and support to each other at ant difficulty and should enjoy the moment. Therefore, it can be concluded as the maintaining the partner is more difficult than the finding the partner.
Fall in love and maintaining the good relationship somehow is a part of a life string where at each not there are difficulties and happiness. The partners need to think to each other to maintain the relationship for a long term. To fall in love with someone, it is not necessary to forcefully run towards that but it’s a natural process which attracts the person towards you and you towards to the person. There is nothing more important in life than the successful love relationship; it may be we live our live entirely on chance but still there is only one life to live. From the study of neural correlates of the mental situation of the brain, it can be concluded towards the love and relationship that it’s a very complex emotion like love to the humans, it is often depend on the biological characteristics of the human and their natural behavior. There are lot of important factors which dictate the situation of attractiveness and whom to fall in love.
In a movie When Harry Met Sally, sally was weeping and saying that “but why doesn’t he love me?”. Her hear was broken because her good boyfriend married to someone else instead of her. It was like a shock for her. Not only sally is facing that kind of situation but there are many in the world. The romantic love story is a mystery for everyone. So here the problem is also same, sally found good partner but could not maintain the relationship strongly.
Francesco Alberoni, theory explains that as like the political or religious conversion process, falling in love and maintaining the relationship is also a that kind of natural process. When some people go for a life change or start their life new, they fall in love. Falling in love is kind of a nascent state. Where new live is created by combining of the old energy in to new.
At the end, we can say-
“There’s one sad truth in life I’ve found
While journeying east and west -
The only folks we really wound
Are those we love the best.
We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those who love us best.”
~Ella Wheeler Wilcox
The ongoing financial uncertainty and economic upheaval has put a lot of emotional strain on our lives, dating being a part of it. Relationship expert Alina Ruigrok takes a close look at the impact of the recession on the world of dating. The core concept of dating has undergone a whirlwind change as the factor of affordability trumps the chances of finding someone interesting and attractive to go out with. Couples who are already in a relationship can come to an amicable understanding and budget their dating, but for those who are into casual dating, the equation is completely different and exploring more than one option can become quite a costly affair.
Even though women hold positions of professional and managerial importance, they still like to be treated like ladies, for example, the men taking care of them or paying the bills; the mark of a successful man. But, things have changed dramatically due to the recent economic crisis. Both men and women are under pressure as they have to look their best on a tight budget and also pitch in for the bills on most occasions if not every time.
“On the plus side, a tight budget fuels creativity as impressing a date without spending too much requires skill,” states relationship expert Alina Ruigrok. “People spending more time with each other and slowing down a bit also boost the chances of real relationships forming as opposed to serial dating.”
Relationship Expert Alina Ruigrok provides counseling sessions to members of Love-Sessions.com, a user friendly portal that offers opportunities, free articles, different relationship tests, and other resources to help those who are looking for relationship advice or who want to strengthen their relationship.
Who will be your valentine this year on 14th February,2012?
|Love is in the air! As the calendar counts down towards what is generally considered the most romantic day of the year, Valentine’s Day, we want to find out your romance quotient. Valentine’s Day is one of the most popular days for proposals (alongside Christmas Day, Thanksgiving, and New Year’s) !
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By SHEENA GOODYEAR, QMI AGENCY
Traditional dating sites are starting to take a back seat to social networks when it comes to finding romance on the Internet, a new survey suggests.
It’s a phenomenon Queen’s University communications professor Sidneyeve Matrix calls “dating in the stream.”
In Leger Marketing’s survey for QMI Agency, when asked their favourite place to meet someone online, 18% of Canadians said social networks, 17% said mutual friends, 13% said general dating sites and 6% said communityspeci fic dating sites.
“You very quickly get a sense of their habits, their hobbies, their travel interests, their sense of humour and also how they look in a myriad of situations,” said Queen’s business professor John Pliniussen, who studies Internet trends, of seeking love on social networks.
Sam Gosling, a psychology professor at the University of Texas, said social networks paint more trustworthy pictures of people than online dating bios.
If you’re a shy person who wants to come across as a thrill-seeker who sky-dives and swims with sharks, it’s easy enough to write that on your profile.
But on Facebook, keeping up that kind of lie would take serious work. “I should have photos of me swimming with the sharks and sky-diving,” Gosling said.
Even if you post fake photos, your social circle would invalidate your false claims.
“We share social media friends with many of our real offline friends, which means there’s a huge accountability there.’ ”
Matrix said dating sites are trying to tap into that social market by adding multimedia and networking features “because they are competing with Facebook and they know it.”
However, Kate Bilenki of the Vancouver-based dating site Plenty of Fish begs to differ.
“(Social networks are) so much for dating, whereas our website is a specific service to go and find a date,” she said. “I don’t think that they’re taking away from our business.”
You are waiting for the launch of most awaiting website for dating . A new era in social dating - that has never been introduced earlier. First of it’s kind in the world. It will enable you to all interacting features like, dislike, comment, upload photos, chatting, videos, posts, wall posts, links, etc. You will like it like a hell !
Don’t you think it will be amazing, if not wait for few days !
by DAVID EVANS on DECEMBER 16, 2011 in CONFERENCES
Check out this huge update from the organizers of the Online Dating Summit, March 2012.
A few Headlining Sponsor sponsorships are available. The current lineup of headlining sponsors includes well-known brands such as:
- WhiteLabelDating.com - the UK’s leading online dating provider, and currently fastest growing Online Dating Company in Europe, the Middle East and Africa (EMEA).
- Dating Factory – one of the largest providers of white label dating site solutions worldwide, and currently one of the fastest growing companies within our industry.
- WireCard – one of the world’s leading companies for payment systems and risk management.
Jump on board if you still want to maximize your brand exposure at this new and exciting new conference.
You can even win a free sponsorship!
There will be a raffle held by on February 1st, 2012. All registered participants are eligible for the prizes.
- A Diamond Sponsorship Package valued at € 9.999 (approx. US$ 13.250)
- A weekend in Bucharest including flight and hotel sponsored by Birdview Mobile
- And last but not least: A private mambo lesson with Mamboo COO Gloria Diez.
The speaker line-up for the Summit is already boasting top-flight professionals such as:
- George Carter, co-founder of Dating Factory
- Gloria Diez, the COO of Mamboo.com
- Jon Dodd, the Managing Director of bunnyfoot.com
- Peter Symons, Chief Marketing Officer of Twoo
- Lisa Moskotova, COO and co-founder of Dating Factory
- Ouali Benmeziane, CEO of WebCongress.com
- Robert McCann, Sales Executive – Entertainment of paysafecard
- Peter Glaeser, CEO and Co-Founder of sponsormob.com
The Future of the Industry
A “can’t miss session” for anyone working in the Online Dating Industry is the “The State of the Industry” expert panel, where straight-forward-thinkers such as Ross Williams, Founder and CEO of WhiteLabelDating.com, Tanya Fathers, Co-Founder and CEO of Dating Factory, Lorenz Bogaert, the Co-Founder and CEO of Twoo, and Martin Bysh, the CEO of Smooch will give us insight on where they see our industry heading in the future.
For all those interested in either the U.K. marketplace or the DATCH region (Germany, Austria, Switzerland), the U.K. and DATCH country expert panels are must-attend sessions.
The Online Dating Summit is all about networking and making new business contacts. Therefore conference participants can use the b2bforum.net starting today to network and set up business meetings at the conference with the other attendees. In addition to that on both conference days there will be an 80-minutes Speed Networking session starting at “high noon” where the participants can get to know each other in a fun and efficient way, before having the rest of the day to follow up in depth on their new business leads.
The Job Market
If you are looking to hire new employees, or if you want to offer your skills, you might want to stop by at the “ODS Job Market”.
For our Affiliates
Affiliates, who would like to improve their SEO ranking, should definitely not miss the various panels about this topic, and the chance to exchange some links at the “ODS Link Exchange Forum”.
The Hospitality Events
Business definitely comes first at the Online Dating Summit, but who said, you could not also network in a fun way? To network in a relaxed and informal atmosphere the organizers have put together an entertaining hospitality program.
For those who would like to work on their handicap while networking there is the ODS Golf Tournament, held on one of the nicest golf courses Catalonia has to offer. And the adrenalin junkies will have the opportunity to race their fellow industry mates at the ODS Karting Grand Prix, held at one of the most impressive indoor karting tracks worldwide.
Happy hours at the end of the main show days (in the Private Club Mies Van der Rohe in the Hotel Miramar) will help you unwind and offer all delegates the opportunity to continue your business talks over a beer or a good glass of Spanish red in a more relaxed atmosphere.
And for those who can’t get enough and like a good party after a serious day of business there is more good news: There will be 3 of those.
The ODS Opening Party will be held at Shoko, one of the trendiest clubs in Barcelona that will let you experience the excitement of the Mediterranean night life.
The “WhiteLabelDating.com Party” – the main party of the Online Dating Summit, sponsored by Global Personals and co-sponsored by Twoo, will take place in the one and only Club CDCL, an absolute hotspot in Barcelona.
The closing party, held in our venue hotel, will conclude the hospitality schedule.
For those that wish to experience a little more in Barcelona the organizers of the Online Dating Summit are going out of their way to make your stay a formidable one. A “Barcelona Gourmet Walking Tour” and a “Spanish Wine Tasting” are on offer on March 5th, 2012, for those who would like to stay a couple of hours longer, and to get to know more of the impressive city of Barcelona.
Mobile World Congress
A last thing: For those of you interested in the latest & greatest in the field of mobile applications and developments, it might be worth to fly in a day or two earlier, as from February 27th until March 1st the Mobile World Congress is taking place, the world’s largest congress of its kind attracting over 60.000 visitors.
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